My baby daughter is 14…she is a basketball player.
But she is at a tough stage right now….entering high school. Although she has played with all the girls at the high school on travel ball and such for years, there is still this” them” and “me” mentality that goes on. Well this week she got picked to play two games with the varsity players. She was giddy with excitement….until the game. She froze. She ran up and down the court but did not come within 5 feet of the ball the whole game. As a parent I was just dying. She loves this game and I knew she just killed herself in the eyes of the coach.
After the first game she walked up to me and said…”I suck”. I looked at her and made her an offer…$5.00 everytime you touch the ball. I was just hoping that the coach would give her another chance.
The game started and within five minutes the coach put her in….with in one minute she had the ball…she looks at me and flashes me five fingers. Pretty soon she had it again…10 fingers this time. Soon my basketball player daughter forgot that she wasn’t” one of them”…she was jumping for rebounds..shooting baskets..and trying to steal the ball.
After the game ,which they won, she came up to me and said…”You owe me either $15 or $20 dollars…I can’t remember”. I smiled at her and said…”I owe you $45.”
Yes it was an expensive game for me but so valuable for her. She had started out doing it for the money..but soon she was just playing the game. She got away from the voices inside her head that were making her feel puny.
So why am I telling you this story? To remind you of the power of a bribe? No. It made me think about how much I hold myself back in life because of silly things that my head likes to tell me….You aren’t good enough…You can’t…You will look silly.
If we could all just shut our heads off and just do it, we might surprise ourselves with what we can do.
No I won’t be paying my daughter at every game, but I don’t think I will have to…she knows what she can do. So what about you…do you know that you are so much more than those voices in your head will allow you to believe?