Today is my big brother’s birthday so I thought I would take a moment and reflect on the relationship I have with this man.
Many woman I suppose, aren’t close to their brothers….men don’t always “get” us women. This is not true for my brother, but why? Why is our relationship so different than most brother and sisters?
I have a sister that is 14 years older than me..so I was only 4 when she left for college. That left just my brother and I at home. I have fond memories of us playing together. Family vacations meant my brother and I in the backseat trying to come up with all kinds of creative things to play. Then by the end of the trip, I would be curled up in his lap sleeping.
My brother is 4 years older than me so some of my earliest memories are of mom saying….take your sister.
I adored him. I remember seeing him at school and running to give him a kiss. He wasn’t to happy about the kiss but I was grinning ear to ear. He was my big brother and I wanted the world to know.
He would walk me to school and later, he would drive me places. He always made me ride in the backseat but that is ok…he took me. In fact most of our lives we have hung out together.
I suppose I had always felt that our relationship was just one sided until my high school graduation. My brother was in the Air Force by then and he flew in to surpise me on my special day. I was glowing. From that moment on, I knew that he felt the same way about me as I did about him.
We had a bond…we still do.
My children look up to him…I admire him….he is my husband’s best friend.
Take your sister….simple words spoken by a mother that have made all the difference.
My mother wanted nothing more than her children to be close…to be there for each other.
He is still taking me everywhere….we are planning an Alaskan cruise next year.
So what are you doing today to help build lasting relationships between your kids? They don’t have to be the same sex…or even close in age. They just have to be taught to care about each other. It’s a gift a mother can give that can last a life time.
Happy Birthday Brother