I am sitting here thinking….
A dangerous past time I know…Anyone know what movie that quote is from? The answer will be at the end of the post…no cheating.
So here I am a few days post surgery and all I can do is wonder if I have lost any weight. Isn’t that terrible? Why would I think I had? Yes I had a very large uterus removed but do I really think that weighed enough to show up on the scale?
Lucky for me my scale is upstairs and I am not ready to venture there just yet.
But it got me thinking about how many times in life we are disappointed because of our expectations.
Didn’t inherit as much money as your thought you would? Why did you think you would get anything at all?
Kids don’t call as much as you would of thought they would? Why not focus on the fact that they call at all.
Thought your husband might have the house clean when you got home? Once again, disappointed because we expect things.
I remember one year my young nephew thought he was getting a special backpack…he didn’t, and because of it he had a miserable Christmas. No matter what, that kid wasn’t going to be happy. At the time I thought…what a brat…but now I look back and think of all the times I have done the same thing. I set my sights on what I think a situation will be like and then when it doesn’t turn out that way, I am upset. I’m upset not because someone told me they were going to do something and didn’t, I’m just upset because I came up with a scenario in my head of how I thought a situation was going to look and it didn’t.
As I go into this phase of being a mother in law and grandmother I am trying to learn that I don’t DESERVE anything. Life is a gift and every gift of kindness that is given to me is also a gift.
Expect nothing, but be thrilled with everything you are given…this is a trait I see in older people that are happy.
Now if I could just learn how to do this when it comes to the scale…
But the way, the quote is from Beauty and the Beast.