Funny how God has a way of teaching you things you didn’t really think you needed to know.
I was a stay at home mom. I loved being at home with my kids. In fact I have to admit that I got a bit prideful (is that a word?) about it. I didn’t think I was, but if a mom told me that she “had” to work I would think to myself…you wouldn’t have to if you were willing to give up that manicure of yours.
Being a stay at home mom was my destiny….it was what God wanted me to do. But now I wonder…does God have the same path for everyones’ life? I never really thought about the fact that maybe…just maybe, God wants some moms to work.
I now have one daughter that is a stay at home mom and one that is a working mom. I am so proud of them both. Why? Because they are both doing what they feel God wants them to do with their life.
I know that being a stay at home mom can be hard. It’s hard to be with working people and feeling like you have nothing to talk about but the new strides they are making in disposable diapers. I know how temptation can enter your thoughts when your are lonely…I know how hard it is to stay interesting to your husband. I know how hard it is to take care of your children when you are sick because you don’t have a daycare to send them to.
I now know how hard it is for the working mom. I now realize that they have that manicure because without it people see you as a mom that is trying to work rather than the professional you are. I now know that you have to go to work when you are sick so you can save your sick days for when your child is sick.
I now know how hurtful I must have been to those working moms. Moms that were tired, stressed, doing the best they could with what God had instructed them to do.
I now see women differently than I did….Now I just want to encourage them to be what God put them on this earth to be. I want us as women to stop trying to build ourselves up by trying to tear down others. I want us to help each other. Maybe I can take your kid to basketball practice for you but maybe you are the woman doctor I want for my daughter when she needs one. Maybe I can bake cookies for the class party so you can be my child’s teacher.
I’m sorry to any working mom out there that I ever laid a layer of guilt on.
My daughter is the director of a non profit….she talks daily with your girls that are struggling with life. Girls that don’t need guilt laid on them, just love. Aren’t you glad that there are women like my daughter that are willing to listen to the call of God over their own desires?
Pray for the working moms you know…pray for the stay at home moms you know…God has mighty things that he wants to do in both of their lives….Forgive me Lord for not seeing that sooner.