I have been a stay at home mom my whole life. When I first started this career, I truly was a “stay” at home mom. We had only one car and I lived within walking distance to NOTHING!
Those were lonely days. Back then talking to a friend meant you had to stay by the phone which meant it would be the only time of day your child would decide not to hang on you and you would be left wondering where they were and what they were doing the whole time you were talking.
I would often entertain myself by dressing my baby up in cute outfits and take pictures of her….but back then each picture cost you money to get developed so this was not a hobby I could afford to keep.
I remember my mom telling me that in her day Monday was wash day because that is the day all the other mom’s would be out in their yards hanging up their clothes to dry. It would be her time to visit.
Times had changed…us stay at home moms weren’t on every block. I always knew I was blessed to be able to stay home with my kids but those days were so lonely for me. The hours would drag and my self esteem would fade with each passing day.
Long long hours and tons of self doubt. Time passed and before the second child we had a car..FREEDOM! If that is what you call being able to go somewhere with two or three kids and no money. We also had a cordless phone…I wonder if a mom invented that? And by this time we lived in a neighborhood with a stay at home mom in almost every house. My days were full of school parties and bible studies. Life was good!
But the kids grew up…how dare they. Soon they could drive theirself. I was no longer needed. My opinions were dumb and my presence was no longer wanted. It was during these times that I wished I was a brain surgeon or something. I wanted to be valued. But I suppose that even a brain surgeon gets the roll of the eyes from their teens.
Life is a journey…some will decide to be working moms …some will stay at home. All will have those moments of doubt. All will get tired and want to quit.
I am now a stay at home grandma. In some ways this is so much easier than it was for me as a mom.
1. They go home and I get to crash….lol
2. I know now that this is just a moment in time. Life is fleating…If I wish I could have grasped that as a young mom. My days seemed long I couldn’t imagine that the years would go so fast.
3. For some reason people are nicer to stay at home grandmas. When I was a stay at home mom people looked at me like I must have a brain the size of a pea. When people hear I’m a stay at home grandma they act as if I have a heart the size of a watermelon.
I would love to hear from you all…are you a stay at home mom? Working mom? Stay at home grandma?